While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to.
Cast your net further afield We can be a very picky bunch.
The event, which was held in the confines of a cavernous bar downtown, had a surprisingly large turnout. " I looked at my name tag, which was peeling off already, as if it knew that the "T" written on it was all some horrible lie. That, and never buy knives from that dude from high school.
I happened to be one of the first guys to register with the organizer, and I took the opportunity to grab a beer and watch the men herd into line to register like cattle to the slaughter. " the organizer asked one man, who responded with a nervous chuckle. To be blunt, most of the men on either side (including me) were average-looking -- sometimes aggressively so.
We whinge that we can’t find the right man, or never get a second date, but the usual reason is we’re not looking hard enough in the first place.
Whether we’re into bears, jocks or geeks, sometimes our narrow search criteria holds us back.
Having fixed ideas of what you want – which usually boil down to looks and little else – could be standing in your way of meeting some great guys.
It’s time to think outside the box, look past the beards or muscles, and take chances.
This is a common scenario and can create strain in an otherwise perfectly compatible partnership when everything is aligned just right except the bedroom satisfaction element.
Be positive Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.
Not only is this far too prescriptive, you also run the risk of coming across as overly negative.
Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect.
Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B."Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head.